Another brick in the wall......

So, it's been almost 2 years since I've last written.

Well, that's not strictly correct. That was the last time I macro blogged. I micro blog a lot. Thanks if you follow them, I hope they're intermittently witty and infrequently annoying.

I last wrote in long form here which compressed my quest to change careers for a 3rd time . A further two years, and alas I am still yet to qualify as a teacher. 8 years and counting. 

In my last macro missive, I had been unsuccessful in securing a training position. Fast forward just a couple of months, a chance meeting during a cab journey with a couple of super friendly if, REALLY late running for a meeting "Please speed us to the office ASAP my good man!", members of the Harris Training Team and I am in receipt of an offer to train as an English teacher (I had a proper interview, not just hashed over in a cab).  So far so good, hugely chuffed, I ring loved ones including my mum and give them the good news.

That was January 10th, 2018. On January 20th, my mum died. It was tough, just 11 months before my father in law died from lung cancer and we were still reeling from that to be honest. I was so pleased that mum knew I had secured a place and I took solace in that. Onwards and upwards as she would have said.  

Back to the quest. I did some reading, warming up my hippocampus to receive some pedagogy, and try and prepare as much as I could for the ensuing change.  I spent one day a week during the last half of the summer term in my new school to absorb as much as I could from new colleagues and to have my face be less of a surprise in the new academic year "Is that the bloke that was sitting at the back paying attention?".......

Summer school came and went and then, my last working-6-week-summer-holiday in the cab! I cherished my customers in the knowledge that I'd soon be faced with a slightly different crowd, who would not be looking over my shoulder, but facing me full on!

The summer wind, turned into the autumn wind and I was at school, experiencing an inset day from the other side of the fence, not as a parent juggling childcare, or taking the opportunity to run around and get last minute uniform accoutrements.  It was fantastic, and just a little surreal to be sitting with other teachers - proper bona fide educators - and be included in the rally cries for the new year ahead. Here are our exam results, here's behaviour policy reboot, now away to your departments!

It was hallucinating in a positive way, I had finally found my way behind the elusive Oz curtain and was munching away at the contents.

The weeks rolled away, 4 days out of 5 in our schools and then a day with the cohort of almost 170 other trainees having centralised pedagogy siphoned into our very beings - SEN/Behaviour/Inclusion/Teacher Voice etc etc.  I won't lie, the experience was an assault on the senses, my summer term days were as nothing to the wall of 28 individuals who care not for your planned lesson, that you have wrought from a variety of sources, be they TES, twitter, googled images and more.  I was overwhelmed by it all. I am organised. I know I am. I have performed in a band in front of less than friendly audiences "I SAY YOU ARE A BIT LOUD".  Yet even this reception is positively chummy in comparison with a class less interested in the language structure of a passage of Orwell than that country club crowd The Blues Brothers played Rawhide to.

My colleagues were unfalteringly supportive, my mentor was and is one of the kindest and compassionate people I've ever worked with in almost 30 years of work across now four different sectors. I was picked up countless times when I came up against a wall, with the text, the task, the student, the IT.  All the while, grasping onto why I wanted to be an educator. It was hard. I could feel my resting level of anxiety rising.  Oh, and then my back gave up on me - a week before half term and I ended up hobbling out of school bent double.  I managed to get to an osteopath and am now regularly pummelled to keep me on the straight and narrow.  So, I enter the 2nd half term ready to fight the good fight, more training days pass; more fantastic lectures/keynote speakers, more pedagogy is siphoned into us.  

But.  My anxiety rises steadily.  

We reach Christmas. Hallelujah, ye faithful, we did it. A term is in the bag. It feels like a punch bag, but a bag nonetheless. Christmas beckons.  Our second placements await us in the new year. 2019. Which will also herald a year without mum. Dad kept a check on me throughout, telling me always that "We're really proud, we knew you'd do it."

My second placement was a great experience. Contrasting. That is a prerequisite and it was. Totally.  I am mentored by a wonderful teacher, mumsy in just the right way.  I teach 3 different Shakespeare texts, only one of which I'm very familiar with.  So it's the bard by the seat of the britches. This school is rightly proud of the culture they have cultivated over many years. I am challenged not by behaviour this time (I am shocked that all students have a pen, and heaven forfend they need to borrow one, it is returned neatly and, without requiring to test it's flight, to my desk post learning) the challenge is one of their learning, can I cut the mustard in delivering a lesson to their high standards. Well, I think I got away with it. And then, the three weeks are at an end and I am due to return to my school. 

Anxiety is as gas mark 11.  I think it's right to comment a little on anxiety at this point.

I have been 'anxious' before, I spent 17 years in container shipping, I controlled budgets, I travelled internationally, I negotiated.  I had been married for nigh on twenty years, I had fathered two children. Births, marriages, the aforementioned deaths.  Tick, tick, tick.  I'd fronted a band for 15 years. Winged half rehearsed wedding songs, pulled them off with no-one noticing (Tip: start and stop in the same place, that's half the battle).  I had studied for years, completed the knowledge, completed GCSEs and a BA whilst working and juggling family.  But I had never experienced anxiety like this. Ever.

It grips you, it's visceral. You feel ill, you are exhausted.  You have panic attacks. In addition to wanting to do a good job and be a model trainee, well, it all became too much.

I returned to my school and, argh, change had occurred - not earth shattering, ooh can you teach PE - just simple room changes and this really knocked me sideways.  I had always been honest with my mentor and colleagues about how I felt and I admitted that I had to take a break.  In total I was away from school for 6 weeks.  I felt dreadful, "You've let them down, yourself down, is this for you? what are you doing?" It took me two weeks to even begin to relax a little.  I sought help from a psychotherapist and had several visits. What I found most frustrating was how I could see objectively what was wrong, and I could articulate my state of mind.  But this was futile. It didn't make me feel any better just because I could name it, as useful as a chocolate teapot.  What helped was busying myself, reading for fun, not research papers or academic writings, I read lots of fiction.  I stripped and painted kitchen cupboards, I listened to podcasts, The Griefcast was timely and helpful to put things into perspective.  I returned to school after my period of reflection/recuperation/regrouping.

And school were amazing, I cannot overstate that. There was no pressure, only support and care for my wellbeing. I know this is not universally the case, and I feel lucky that this experience has happened now, when there is so much of a spotlight shone on the area of mental health, incidentally, Matt Haig writes so brilliantly on this, his two book Reasons to Stay Alive and Note on a Nervous Planet are simply amazing.

So I went back to school. They tweaked my timetable, I lost a tricky class, and I was paired for a large chunk with a colleague who provided me with ample support, tricks, plans and general 'you can do this kid'.  

But the anxiety didn't fully subside. I now felt pressure from the post grad element of training. So frustrating. I can study, look believe me, I can essay, I know I can. But. Inertia.

So in Easter this year, I took the painful decision to put things on hold.  I am lucky. I know that might sound bizarre after paragraphs detailing despair. I had a plan, things were thrown into my path that I hadn't envisaged. They derailed me, but the carriage needed to go into the siding for a while (ooh, more metaphors), again I had nothing but support from all my colleagues, Principal, HOD, Mentor, tutors, everyone.

So, I've been back in a cab since then, I'm fortunate to have that to fallback on.  I have had a good break, I'm a month away from returning to school.  The same school, with the same students, a vast number of the same colleagues.  In my limited experience of teaching, it's what I know.  And that counts for a lot. I will be an even more familiar face than last September. I have a bank of lessons, I have resources. And I have the passion to complete my training and continue to share my love of my subject with students. 

Teaching. The final frontier.

If you know me, then you'll know I made a decision about 6 years ago to change careers.  A decision that has occupied almost every waking hour since.

Back then, my work life was dull. Repetitive. Unfulfilling.

What was I going to do then?  Indulge me with a bit of backstory.

Call it serendipity, but I met Drew Buddie at a Twitter conference (yeah, I know) and this led firstly, to a friendship that has underpinned the journey - X Factor eat your heart out - I've undertaken. Drew is enthusiastic, about many things, but first and foremost it's education that drives him.

We bonded over a discussion about how the knowledge of London is such a comprehensive feat of learning, but in his eyes not recognised and understood by the educational fraternity.  I accepted his subsequent invitation to speak at a TedX event, following the regular BETT show in London.  I was a nervous speaker, but many of those present were kind enough to let me know how interesting they had found what I had to say.

At this point dear reader, I still hadn't decided that I wanted to pursue pedagogy.

But as I've already said, I lacked job satisfaction. They say if you enjoy work, then it's not work. And that was what I set out to do.

Then it hit me. Teach. Take the baton of enjoyment that the knowledge had given me, and pass it on.

My simple logic was this. I need to work for at least another twenty five years. I knew if there was no end in sight, I ran the risk of work based stereotype. Cab driver hates his job, becomes increasingly cynical, reads the Sun and has a penchant for outbursts on what is wrong with the world.

Great. I had a plan. Resit English, Maths and Science GCSEs. (Having ingloriously failed them in the eighties - my lame excuse always that it was because we were the first year to sit them as they replaced O levels - I'm sure progress 8 contemporaries may do the same!).  Then a degree, I had considered a Bachelor of Education, but settled on English Literature and Language.

So beginning in 2012 with my English GCSE, I began a study period that would last for six and a half years - almost double the time in which I studied to become a cabby. Now I have to stress that I HAVE enjoyed it. Stretched hippocampus not withstanding, I really have.

Let's try and contextualise this transition from cabbing to teaching, it may seem unusual, perhaps even a little misguided - but I'm not the first to go outside the box and do something against type - outside the box - look at Lucy Kellaway, FT columnist now Maths teacher.  You can read about her story here, here and even hear her here (from 37.40). She's even set up a charity to encourage people wishing to do the same.

So, the plan was simple. I'd study, I'd volunteer at my children's old primary school - to get some cockpit hours in the bag, and importantly be exposed to a little of what was to come. Not be blasé about the task in hand, get my hands dirty, I think that's enough metaphors.

And lastly, I'd continue to grow a network of likeminded folk on twitter with whom I would engage with virtually and physically at regular TeachMeet events .  There are, excuse the cliché, too many to name but trust me their value is inestimable.

All of this has happened. I am now the proud owner of BA Honours English Literature and Language Degree 2.2.

However, it's September 2017 and I am not starting my PCGE.

Austerity knows no bounds, and Educational budgets have been reduced across the country.  The route that I had planned, via  a School Direct or SCITT salaried training position are like gold dust. Schools are having to consider the level of hand holding that is necessary with applicants. Unfortunately their view seems to be that I would need more than some, or rather that the school would be pleased to have me train in a non salaried position, thereby not being a budgetary cost.

I of course understand their plight. But to quote Eddie Cochrane - "Mom and poppa told me "son you gotta make some money."  There seems to be a disconnect between a profession that is clearly struggling to retain staff and those that are trying desperately to be heard knocking on the front door.

This coupled with official forecasts by the Department for Education that by 2025 a further 750,000 places will be needed, suggests that something has to give.  

I want to teach. I've probably never felt so destined for anything in my life like this. It's vocational. I am determined to get there, and again I'd like to voice my appreciation for my family, friends and passengers who have showed their support over the years.

And finally, if you read this and think you can help me achieve it, I'm all ears.

Why don't you shut up?

I am the kind of person who likes to be connected.  Always in need of conversation.  I thrive on information; current affairs fascinate me, and keeping abreast of them is a constant task.  In pursuit of these aims I’ve always been a talker.  I love to chat and chewing the fat about many topics brings me great joy.

In my previous occupations, this has been fairly straightforward.  Working in an office environment, these were full of work colleagues with whom the current TV, government initiatives, or favourite musical act could easily be discussed.

Since changing professions 4 years ago, the human interaction, whilst still there, is not always accompanied by conversation.  Driving a London Cab is a functional job, and many passengers want just that; a driver - Not a précis of the problems in Rwanda.

So it was with delight that I discovered Social Media in 2009. The ability to converse with people is virtually limitless, time being the constraining factor.  Procrastination is the biggest pitfall, but this and other disadvantages are in the minority.  On so many occasions my knowledge on issues have been stretched by reading articles,  I am certain, these would not have crossed my path without the interweaving messages that have surfaced on twitter.  These articles come from a circle of online friends with whom I am connected by a process of referrals.  A ‘like minded’ group of people which seems to self propagate, with an extremely high success rate.  The true joy of the connections are when someone says “How do you know [insert tweeter of choice]?” and you reply “I really don’t know, but it feels like I’ve always known them.”

And all of this is possible thanks to Social Media, specifically mobile hosted Social Media. Yes, it can be benign, inconsequential. As can life.  I once heard Stephen Fry discuss twitter in a talk he gave.  “It’s a broad church.”  I completely agree.  And I am so pleased to be an enthusiastic member of the congregation.

Life, parenting and the universe

I usually start by saying it's been so and so length of time since my last post. This is mainly because life disappears up itself, faster than a goldfish forgets the view from the bowl......

Anyway, the thing is, I never knew it would be this hard. Yes, you can call me naive, but I would refute that in a second. Nearly 13 years ago, I had no preconceptions about how I was going to handle it. At the time I had a human being in my hand, weighing slightly more than a couple of bags of sugar, and roughly the same length. I've never professed to anything more than a make it up as you go, haphazardly nipping and tucking as we go. We have treated our responsibility with great care, ensuring the boys (we had a second, similarly 'sweet' package arrive almost 3 years after the first) are fed, watered and clothed, and have the ability to experience as much of life as possible.

The demands are varied and as we both work, we do out utmost to be around as much as possible. But we have aspirations of our own, mine are well documented and ongoing. But every so often you stop and think;

"Do I do too much?"

"Should we change?"

We've frequently discussed our approach, is it the best way. The simple truth is, maybe obviously, that it has to change according to circumstance. Long gone are the days of nappies and 'Farmyard Tales'. Now we have increasing volumes of homework, clubs and extra curricular activities to get to.

It's fair to say that the tumultuous tribulations we ride almost daily, are the highs, and lows of prepubescent boys.........it really is as cliched as you like, "I hate you", "you don't understand", "you're the worst" et cetera, et cetera.

Sometimes I wonder if I'm not trying to nibble more off the tree. This is a highly charged time in my children's development. In the next 6 months alone I am running (very liberal use of that verb)a marathon, and sitting exams for GCSE Maths and Science.

What pushes me on, beyond my own endeavour to teach, keep fit, play music, is that this life we lead is an example to our little contribution to the next generation. I hope they will have the sense that life is to be lived. Lived in the way THEY chose, seizing any opportunities, and creating them if necessary.

Maximum Break

Dear Reader, it's been too long, and I'm sorry.

Too long, 147 days too long. Or over 200k minutes.

Since my last post, not since I saw my mother, or did a good deed.  

It's not been uneventful, I've reached a mini milestone on the path towards teaching, having achieved an A* in my English GCSE (amidst a sand storm on the grading of said exams) which I resat in May.

I did drop the study after the examination, which quickly ran into the summer period, where working schedules had to be adjusted to suit the boys being home.  Typically Mrs J would finish work at 2pm then come home and we'd perform the age old square dance of parental hand over..... I would then venture into the abyss that was London during the XXX Olympiad.  Seriously, they threw the bathwater out with the baby, if you catch my drift.  Hands up if you were a good Olympic-goer and actually spent some of your time and money in the other part of town that existed beyond St Pancras, and the fabulous Javelin train.

I had a few lucky breaks over the summer, and was very grateful to Emma Mulqueeny for the opportunity to be involved with Young Rewired State "Festival of Code" in Birmingham, a really inspiring endeavour for the yoof of today.

We'd decided to stay put for most of the summer, but we did grab a long weekend with some tweet pals in Roose Point, near Cardiff.  An absolutely beautiful part of the world, really enjoyed NOT driving. We took the train, much more relaxing. 

On the subject of Olympics......we did get to the stadium to watch the Paralympic athletics on the Wednesday evening, we were very excited and it was lovely to meet up briefly before hand with Tanni Grey-Thompson, who I met through work and have become very friendly with.  She was mobbed once spotted, and after having obligatory photos taken, had a quick chat before she had to get back to the commentary box.

September rolled round and school resumed, our eldest is no longer the small fish in the pond, now in year 8.   No 2 has started in a new primary school, we thought long and hard before making the change, but we felt he needed to move on for reasons I'm sure you'll understand (if you're a parent, hey maybe if you're not).

Right, I'm in need of a shower (cast your eyes up and to the right) just been for a run, in the pursuit of my other small challenge over the next 6 months, a place in the 2013 Virgin London Marathon!

The writer..... A short story

The door opened into the dusty reception room.  The lady that emerged was equally dishevelled.  Mrs Sinha was a petit woman, standing only 5ft 1 inches from floor to the ends of her wispy greying hair.  It had been a full five minutes since I had first knocked on the door, waiting patiently for someone to respond.  I was waiting to discover what this, unimposing to the eye, yet formidable literary agent thought of my manuscript.

I had been labouring away at it for hours; many, many hours to be precise.  If you took these hours and strung them end to end, they’d reach the moon!  Oh hang on, that’s not the metaphor I was aiming for.  Hopefully you’ll catch my drift. (Slightly better that one).  So I was very anxious to know what Mrs Sinha, the renowned agent for bestsellers; “Find me the head of Balthazar Speranza”; “All the worlds an onion”; and “Meatballs - an opus,” would think of my work.  I had called it simply, “Labyrinthian tales.”

Fantastically epic in it’s title, I had written a tale of two medieval protagonists.  Each vying for the love of a dusty maiden.  Lucius Renoy and Horatio Formitude.  I painted a very detailed picture for the reader, giving plenty of illustrative descriptions of the castles and landscapes the story is played out against.  I had devoured all manner of historical tomes in order to make the story as authentic as possible in its’ fabric.

Mrs Sinha beckoned me through to her office.  “Sit down my dear, you look awful.”

“Well I am a little nervous,” I replied “your reputation does go before you.”

“That’s, er,” and then she paused, reinforcing my earlier comment.  I knew she was prone to being painfully truthful. “Very interesting, but really I’m a pussy cat.”

“Your story is marvellous.” Relief! “I really think we have something to work with.”  She then proceeded to heap praise on my work.  We agreed that we would meet again over the next few weeks to formulate some ideas.  Just to ‘polish’ some areas of the plot she felt needed a bit more shine.

The Challenge

“It’s 5 o’clock,” whispered Harry.  “Yes, I know.” Came the reply from the confused bus driver. Harry had fallen asleep on the N85 routemaster as it wended its way through town. He had been with friends for a party in The Ram, and had stumbled onto the night bus; Knowing there wasn’t much time left until the day.  The day when he would face his fears and abseil down the largest building in London. The Shard.  Couldn’t they have called it something a little less dramatic he thought? He had enough on his mind, without worrying that the hand stitched climbing rope might somehow be affected by the cutting name of the building.

It stood 900 ft on the south side of the river. Pointing skyward, with gleaming glass windows. Hardly the best surface for walking down.  Harry was to be among the first group of people to participate in this charitable exercise, scaring himself witless in order to raise £600 for Cancer Research.

 Today was the first time he had allowed himself to get worked up about what lay ahead.  Up until now his focus had been the great cause, how much it meant to him and the value of the work the charity does.  His mother had died of throat cancer 3 years ago, and he knew how vital research was in conquering this disease.

The training had been very thorough.  Starting in a classroom, where all the safety measures were explained, he was shown the equipment that would be used; and the techniques, from the experts, that would ensure safe descent.

When the day arrived, he looked out and was pleased the weather forecasters had got it so wrong.  Blue skies and a very light breeze were different to the rain and gale force winds expected. As the train pulled into the station, he could see it.  Towering so high that, as so often happens with tall buildings, he felt like he was falling backwards when he raised his eyes to the very pinnacle.

A final pep talk was given by the instructors and a handshake, wave and hugs from friends and family who had gathered to witness proceedings.

The journey up 80 floors was made via two separate lifts.  The first from ground to 44, then a second for the final 36.  The feeling was indescribable.  Harry exited the lift. It was time to secure his harness and prepare for lift off! Or more appropriately, let down.  The wind was much stronger at this height, Harry felt extremely cautious as he was lowered into the desired position for descent, roughly 90 degrees out from the glass façade.

The first few tentative steps seemed to last an eternity, but probably lasted only seconds. He kept listening to the instructors talking him through the ordeal and before he knew it was within feet of the pavement; “Come on fella,” came a cheer from the crowd, “nearly there.”

And then, touch down! He’d done it.  He hugged his dad and brothers, hoping that somewhere his mum was doing a jig in happy celebration of his achievement.

Next time, he thought, I’ll do a sponsored silence.

A tale of two decibels

Quiet 

Serene.  Look it up in the dictionary and it will tell you it means “clear and calm, placid and unperturbed.”  This is a broad description of my dining room.  It may seem simplistic, but when it’s not overrun with people; eating and drinking, doing homework or arguing, it is an extremely calm place.  I think it is here where I can sit and read, sometimes write and feel at ease.  This room signifies a lot of what I have achieved.  My wife and partner of 18 years, our children who have grown up so far and continue to do so.  They are all here when I sit and think, perhaps not physically, but it is only momentary.  They will return today from work and school respectively.  

This room is not much to look at, aesthetically unfinished.  But it is completely full of memories; Good and bad, happy and sad. Lyrical phrases like “Silence is golden” come to mind, but they’re right. My eyes do see.

Noisy

“Four-oh-Seven!”  The eastern European waitress shouts for the third time.  It is not unusual for this to be the case at the little known portacabin secreted at the back of a disused petrol station in Waterloo.  The number refers to a the raffle ticket we customers are issued when we make our order for food.  This cafe, approximately 30 metres by 15, is busy most days of the week. Filled with London cab drivers, who whilst earning a crust will stop to eat one.  The hustle and bustle starts in the kitchen with staff sharing jokes with the regulars.  They, the regulars, then take their seats alongside their pals.  Conversations are frenetic and often revolve around fares of interest, family tales and, inevitably, the ridicule of each other.  All done with a rye smile and knowing look.

The cacophony of noise is elevated further by when viewing the TV screens that show rolling sports coverage. Expletives pepper the air, but this is to be expected when the subjects of derision and triumph are teams that have been lifelong obsessions for the patrons.  The food is good, the sporting results not always so, but the sense of kinship is palpable, without fail.

New app...new toy

So, a little bit of back story to bring you up to date before this one starts.

My lovely family bought me an iPad for my recent fortieth (yeah, I kept that quiet didn't I.....!) and it has brought me much joy.  As much as any inanimate object can. All the regular things, email, tweeting, emailing, browsing.

I've long held a desire to do some painting, call it the creative being in me.  I've always fancied myself splurging out on a bit of canvas. Expressing the inner Picasso or Turner.

Well, be still my beating heart. Along comes Paper, a nifty drawing, painting, sketching tool, which is quite simply, the dogs doo dahs.

It puts the ability to sketch, rub out, and also to rewind, enabling even the most clumsy doodler to ape the styles of anyone from Lowry (as suggested by one tweet pal today), to Larrson, Matt Groening etc etc.

I've peppered this post with a couple of my efforts. I'm hooked!

New England

Before we got married, my wife and I visited a friend in the US. We planned the trip online, booking accommodation in two other areas (a small town in Vermont and also in Kennebunkport in Maine) wanting to see as much of New England as we could. Arriving at Heathrow for our flight, we were excited about the trip ahead.

With the twelve hour flight completed, we stepped off the plane and met Judd, our friend, in arrivals. Although we were a little tired, the fact that it was still mid afternoon in Boston and, the aroma of a fresh coffee, imbued us sufficiently with the energy to complete the final stage of our outbound travel.

We said our goodbyes to Judd and set off for our first stop: Kennebunkport, Maine. Although we had chosen to travel at the time of year just prior to the renowned "fall" season of mid September, we were still hopeful we would bear witness to the changing colours and tones in the scenery. We headed up the interstate, leaving the downtown area of Boston. Into the open country of rural Massachusetts; an overwhelming feeling of freedom came over us. We have traveled extensively in the UK by car and the experience wasn't always so enthralling. So it was quite amazing to feel so liberated in the knowledge that we had a 2 hour drive ahead of us.

It's so true, that old cliche - "everything in the states is so big".....it just is; wide open spaces, large portions, tall buildings. Everything is done on a much bigger scale. Despite this, we felt very cosy when we arrived in our bed and breakfast. We would be there for two nights, my recollection is a little hazy on details, but we seemed to get into a state of relaxation extremely quickly.

Maine is situated to the north of Massachusetts and it likewise has a coastline to the east. The wild Atlantic ocean stretching as far as the eye can see. The next landmass being that of home; dear old blighty. We hugged the ocean road for many miles, stopping to brace the wind that came back. Our next stop would be Westwards and to the neighbouring state of Vermont.

Our journey to Vermont was through mile after mile of forested landscape. Pine trees created a blanket of green that contracted with the almost clear blue skies above. Colours so vibrant they could almost have been made by felt tip pen. A Victorian B&B was our staging post here. Its owners had paid remarkable attention to details when furnishing the rooms. Our room had a bed that we almost needed a stepladder to ascend to; an authentic wrought iron roll top bath that stood freely in the middle of the bathroom. We were made to feel right at home by our hosts, receiving close attention as we were the only guests at the time.

Vermont is the birthplace of the now global brand of ice cream, Ben and Jerry’s, and we felt it incumbent of us to pay a visit to the factory where it all began. As children of the 70s, we did kind of feel like we were stepping into the pages of that great Roald Dahl book, "Charlie and the Chocolate Factory"; the rooms were garishly painted; it was a hive of activity and there were lots of opportunities to taste the different flavoured ice creams being produced; Cherry Garcia (named after the grateful dead singer, Gerry) and Phish food (named after the band of the same name).

We returned to Boston, where we stayed in Judd's apartment for another few days, taking the opportunity to visit the JFK memorial library. This has a reconstructed oval office with the desk that was actually in the White House at the time of his presidency, and also a small cutter that the keen sailor had used in his early years before coming to power.

This holiday will always have great memories for us. It was such a different time in our lives - a time that we always look back on with such fondness.

We will return one day, hopefully with the children that now fill our lives so fully.

An open letter to Hailo

To Whom It May Concern

I have tweeted several times today, all without acknowledgement. The reason for my inquiry is to understand why myself and other drivers did not receive funds today, payment is normally made on a Friday. Tomorrow is however a bank holiday, and we have been told that payment will now not be made til Tuesday. The message so far communicated has been that payment is delayed;  "Due to the bank holiday weekend".  

Bank holidays are not inserted into the calendar on an ad hoc basis, Easter has been on the calendar since biblical times. So the question is, what more important item has been on Hailo's itinerary that pushes back the payment to drivers.  Much has been said this week of your recent successful round of additional funding, some $17 million. Venture capitalists are no doubt reassured that you have a bullish growth plan. Thanks in no small part to the excellent customer experience of your London venture; driven literally by drivers who now have not received monies earned in good faith.  The failure to authorise payments creates a situation where drivers are forced to further extend their cash flow on behalf of Hailo. This in the middle of one of several fallow periods in the year.

In addition, I should imagine these monies, accrued in a bank somewhere, will result in additional interest, even for one day. That Hailo benefits financially from this administrative failing is unthinkable. Certainly not when drivers, who may well have worked harder in the previous week, to offset the drop in business that Easter school holidays bring, are not in receipt of monies. 

Therefore I would urge Hailo to make a charitable donation of an amount equal to this interest.  If it helps, causes held dear by many are Great Ormond Street Children's Hospital, or the Help For Heroes fund.

This would serve as a valuable gesture.  Your driver community would feel that, to stretch a metaphor,  Hailo has put it's money where it's mouth is.  

Hailo sees itself as the brave new world in the licensed taxi trade, the 'new circuit' in all but name. Trust and belief that this is to be a long term relationship, mutually beneficial to both driver and customers AND Hailo must be earned.

This is one such opportunity.

Argumentative writing....

I had to write something argumentative as part of my English studies and thought it would make a good post.

Smacking is good for children

The argument for smacking children is an ongoing battle between the disciplinarians and the liberal minded who oppose it strongly.

The case for smacking is that it instills a sense of authority, from the parent to the child serving as a line in the sand, a point at which the child knows it has behaved in a very negative way. In my own experience as a member of a family with four siblings, all of whom were born within a relatively short space of time; I remember there being many occasions when my mother lost her temper and was very frustrated.  At  one point my mother had 4 children under the age of 5.  I can remember many times when the slipper would be produced to reinforce a request to desist from any number of activities in which I, or my brothers were engaged.  When I think back, I cannot recall any physical pain, nor do I feel any psychological effects.  My mother’s use of smacking came more from a sense of urgency, the fact that she had to manage 4 children, and get them to the various places we had to be, like school or a doctor’s  appointment.  I know that she didn’t treat it as her “go to” method of parenting; it was always after asking several times.

However smacking is not always seen in such an affirmative way.  Smacking can be assessed as simply being a physical and violent act from one human being to another.  In pure terms it negates the way we normally communicate with one another and is not an example to children of good behaviour.  It could be taken that this is the normal way to behave, which is surely a bad thing.  It’s not useful for a child, who may already know that he or she has done wrong, to receive a smack from their parent.  It is widely accepted that this can lead to feelings to low self esteem in later life.  This is to be avoided. It is unthinkable that parents would inflict pain on their children, they should be treated with care and they should understand that their actions have consequences; these should not be in the form of smacking. Parents need to realise the implications of their actions; It is their responsibility to teach guidelines of acceptable behaviour through experience of their own.  In addition, discussions of why certain behaviour is unacceptable would instill a greater understanding between both parties. Many children’s only memories are that of being constantly smacked and chided for not being a “good boy/girl”.  This often comes without truly understanding what the definition of this is.

Random musings

Thought I'd drop a few lines down about customers of note and also some other thoughts.....

I picked up an elderly couple from Kings Cross, they were en route to Sussex via Charing Cross station to visit family....the clan extends to 4 generations.   What a fantastic dynasty they sit atop,  "great grandchildren are the best" they said, "you can enjoy them without any feeling of responsibility"..... I guess after 3 children and 11 grandchildren, you learn to put the onus of 10 great grandchildren onto the 2 levels of parenthood below you.

On my travels I met a Belgian guy (not French as i had first thought.....hey it's pretty close!) he'd just returned from a trip to Munich, and we somehow got into a a discussion about various forms of 'icsm'.  Almost every point of a persons being is judged,  religion,  ethnicity,  skin colour, name etc etc.  The incessant default of those who deem to marginalise others, is to choose almost anything other than that that in the control of the individual.  Wouldn't it be great if that tide could turn......

I was recently gifted an iPad for my 40th, and as an avid follower of tech developments I reminisced about the  developments that I've witnessed over the years.  Vivid is my memory of receiving a battery operated cassette tape machine when I was about 8 or 9, this was also the same year that my older brother and I committed the cardinal sin of opening presents before my parents got up.  My mum has always taken more pleasure in watching people open presents than what's inside, so this caused merry hell that year.

So, from cassette tapes to MP3 players, corded to cordless and then smart phones, and the explosion of various forms of communication strands.

As an avid twitterer, a thought crossed my mind this week. I can remember joining a container shipping company in Kensington in 1990, the way we communicated was via printed messages that started and ended with '+++' and they were known as the '140 telexes'.......funny that (I found an article that explains the significance of 140 characters here) 

Here is where this post abruptly ends!

Well then, where have you been?

"I'm going to blog," "I'm going to blog"...... These are words that I've been saying time and again. All without execution, I am now blogging, not an inquisitive question or attempt, I am actually doing it.

My trouble is I think too much, I over think in fact. To the point of despair, despair that I will say the wrong thing or not please the right person at the right time. Instead I should be doing that task which is most important at that time. This need to please, worrisome predisposition has been a weight on my shoulders, and I am endeavouring to overcome it, fledgling step by step!

As I've said here already, I decided some time ago that I want to teach, during the course of 2011 I had three distance learning GCSEs that I bought and attempted to study simultaneously......well, it didn't transpire as I'd planned, the reality of combining the disciplines; English, Maths and Science, wasn't successful...this in addition to being there for my family and also that perennial pastime of earning the daily bread.

So this year I resolved that I would take things step by step, the first being then subject I consider to be my strength, English. I have booked exam and will be sitting it at my old comprehensive school.....which will be a little odd, but I finally have a first hurdle lined up on the track.

I must quickly thank @katehibbs for her help in mentoring me through the next couple of months

Nothing like the smell of fresh paint...

So, a new broom sweeps clean and all that, we're finally having some aesthetic cleansing done.....by that metaphor I mean that the wonder Danny, has been working his decor magic in our tired old living room.

The darn thing has been "stripped and ready" for nearly 3 years, so I can't tell you how invigorating it is to see it taking shape into an inviting and calm retreat from the daily grind.

It's very plain, and what we hope will be a blank canvass to be adorned by inspiring pictures and paintings by friends and family, and of those cherished folks in our lives.

This has really kicked 2012 off for us, and I'm busy pursuing a teaching assistant role on a part time basis.  This I hope will give me valuable classroom experience, and also help motivate me in the continued study of my GCSEs.   A visit to the BETT show last week gave me a further boost, seeing so many enthusiastic and passionate educators in one place, and also seeing the amazing technology that is available in the classroom now.  I highly recommend it, even if you're not interested in a career in education, it's truly amazing.

I met lots of old twitter friends there and some new ones, and it further cements in me that I want to teach.

For the meantime, I'll leave you with a couple of pics from our Somerset House ice skating trip at the weeken....now I really must go and hang a clock on a wall!

                                             

The Brook Estate

I grew up in a family of four brothers, for 21 years, we always lived in the same street, on the now infamous 'Brook Estate".

So to the memories, which can be funny things,often romanticised, sometimes chronologically askew, but all very personal, and these, are mine of those years.
It was a council estate, and for all of my childhood my parents rented the accommodation, and with many other occupants were working class people (I always struggle nowadays to know if we should or shouldn't categorise by class, but these are memories so I'll stick with it) Mrs Thatchers right to buy initiative changed that in the eighties.

Dad, after living a 'jack of all trades' existence, became, through the guidance and support of mum and his friends who helped him attain the profession through city and guilds classed at night school, a plumber, in the employ of the local authority. Mum did what many wives did and, still do, working one or more jobs in the evenings, to help swell the coffers and fund the ever rising cost of feeding 4 "growing lads".

We were all taken to the local toddler group, all went to the nearby primary school, and would play on the green (although of course "no ball games allowed") next to our end of terrace house.

We were close to our immediate neighbours, played in each others gardens with their children, and there were various street party's to celebrate the Queens jubilee and the wedding of Charles and Diana.

There were the run of the mill events, minor burglaries, accidents in the two uprights of the ladder configuration of roads that comprised the estate, the estate was a rat run for traffic on the Rochester Way/A2, so these accidents and other pressures brought to bear the relief road being built in 1988), yet we always felt safe in our surroundings.

In addition to school, we were encouraged by our parents to try various other activities, these included the local youth club, boys brigade and most extensively and life affirming, the Scout Association, which I personally was involved with from the age of 8 until I was 25.

None of this was easy for my parents, to either support financially or logistically, but ways were found, clothes were handed down etc etc.

We were always aware of the 'bad boys' and 'street rakers' that lived on or near the estate, but frankly this was never an overbearing problem for us or our parents as they always knew where we were and what we were doing, and more importantly, they were interested in these details. The estate was populated by families from a range of ethnic. I never felt an overbearing sense of racial tension, this wasn't the 60's, I have always felt that I live in a multi cultural society and the Brook Estate epitomised this. At no time did I perceive a large presence of police, it was normal to see them on the street from time to time of course. The only recollection I have is of my eldest brother being stopped and searched on his way home one day, as he matched the description of someone who had burgled a house on the estate.

I think it's extremely sad that the events of 1993 occurred, and that only now any semblance of a  resolution has happened. It’s my strong belief that the parental guidance, love and ambition that I and my brothers received is the reason that we never brought any of the disappointment and dark clouds to their door that have surfaced in the press in recent weeks.

Life

Life's been a bit of a rollercoaster in the last couple of weeks.  My dad had a triple bypass on 31st October, and developed a lung infection in the week after, he had to have another operation last Thursday to rectify that and enable the antibiotics they have given, the ability to work the infection through.   So emotionally it's been very draining, he was extremely confused and frightened for several days and me, my brothers and our mum have all cry many tears, but thankfully he seems to have turned the corner and is much better, all that that much better is still hooked up to various machines that bleep, a torrent of medication and blood transfusions.

And I also find myself in a state of limbo, where I can't seem to focus on any particular task, feel quite despondent about a lot of things.  No matter how much I know how lucky and blessed I truly am, it's quite impossible to actually find the light at the end of the tunnel, silver lining, or whatever metaphor/cliche applies.

All I'm sure of is what I DON'T want at the moment,

•  to argue with my wife and kids as frequently as it seems.
• to have a cash flow that is so stretched, living week to week.
• to live in a house for 7 years and yet nothing in the house reflect that fact.

I guess the obvious thing is to counter these by saying,

• I do want to spend quality time with my wife and kids, cherishing the wonderful people they.
• I want to be able to exist without these monetary issues, I'm not materialistic at all, but live in a world which is obsessed with it.
• I want to live in a house that is bright and inviting.

When I was 31 I decided upon a career path which I now do not enjoy as I had hoped, does not provide me with flexibility as I had hoped and feel as if I have wasted that time. It also is proving very difficult to study for the other aims I do have, which I've talked about in previous postings.

My worst attribute, is that I cannot empty my head of things to do, people to worry about, situations I want to avoid. These projections, in my head, of events that may or not come to fruition.          

I normally post a link to twitter and facebook of my posts, but I think on this occasion I won't.  At the moment its enough just for me to know I've written this and hopefully I can get off my backside and do the other things I need to do today.

Run To The Beat and other stuff

A description of me....

Did a thing and was asked to pen a few words for it...... These are they, I liked them so thought I'd blog it.

Where to start....My involvement in the 140characters project was thru, funnily enough, a twitter follower/ee the wonderful @Dr_Black, I'd met Sue back in November 2009 when I attended a conference, yes that's right, an actual "let's get together and talk about twitter" gathering arranged by someone else I'd met......well, you can guess the rest.

Being a human being that positively thrives on interaction, twitter has been the office I don't work in, the group of like-minded people I would drink with in a pub, if we lived closer than the miles/continents we actually inhabit, and didn't have the other distractions of life that are spouses, children and earning a daily crust.

By day (and also night sometimes) I'm a London cabbie, no, not one of those stereotypical flat cap, sun reading bigoted xenophobic women haters, an actual real life, ambitious, enthusiastic likeable guy who loves people and learning.......oh and I'm studying to become a primary school teacher

The world is android shaped.......

Well..it is for now, I picked up my new phone this week, a very nice, shiny Samsung Galaxy S2 (oooh !) so far so good. It does lots my old iphone did and more, and what's more important, is that it does so far more quickly, and more than one thing at a time....simultaneously if you will.

I've had a great week, and had a very pleasant brush with rockstars. On Friday I picked up three guys near Waterloo station, they were Australian, nothing out of the ordinary.  During the journey I kept noticing the very well kept goatee that one was sporting. I finally plucked up the courage to ask at their destination "are you guys in Inxs *?" to which they replied "yes we are."

I was, just a little, starstruck....you see, I quite like the Inxs discography, so meeting the purveyors of 'Mystify' and 'Never Tear Us Apart' will be a dinner anecdote for some time to come!

Oh well that'll do for now, here's a pic of the boys playing footy yesterday

*they're are over for a gig at Clapham Common Sat June 11th